It’s a yin and yang thing. There is no one without the other. Blame is nonsense. Flaws are necessary. We don’t have to cherish them but we can be honest. Self judgement is always a mistake.
Or not, because it provides drama. But that’s all it does. Emotional force, is what it is. What else is there to propel the show? It’s the nuclear fusion that pushes the production forward.
But that’s a separate point. Yin and yang. Black and white. They are inextricably linked. In you also. In everything. Always.
Happy and sad. Best friends. You can have them together if you’d like. Well, you can have them regardless of what you like. Actually.
You can enjoy. Or not.
It’s not even up to you.